If you love something, let it go, blah blah blah… We’ve all heard that one before, right? Yeah, it makes me gag too. But it is a pretty valuable lesson to learn–it’s also one of the hardest. And, it’s our topic for the week: Letting Go.
In the spirit of letting go, it is my great pleasure to announce that I have partnered up with my friend and fellow word lover, C.K. Hope, to share weekend words with you. Many of you know C.K. from the work she has generously shared on Words for the Weekend before or from her own blog, OK, Who Ate the Daisies.
C.K. shares the same love of words and music that I do, she’s a hell of a poet, and she has a wicked sense of humor. C.K. even has a horse-riding goat named Goatacus (don’t believe me? LOOK.) Please welcome C.K. and make her feel at home; I have a feeling she’s going to fit right in!
So let go, jump in, oh it’s so amazing here . . . But before you do, be sure to say “Hello, Good Morning” to Co-Curator and Word Goddess C.K. Hope, aka Mother of Goatacus, aka Diddy — but you can call her Jennie. She’ll be responding to comments while I run and recover from my race this weekend, so please say hello (good morning)! Don’t forget to check out this week’s playlists in the home page sidebar and in the footers.
“Drink up baby doll
Are you in or are you out?
Leave your things behind
‘Cause it’s all going off without you
Excuse me too busy you’re writing your tragedy
These mishaps, You bubble-wrap
When you’ve no idea what you’re like
So, let go, let go
Jump in, Oh well, what you waiting for?
It’s all right, ‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown
So, let go, let go
Just get in, Oh, it’s so amazing here
It’s all right, ‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown”
“‘Cause you only need the light when it’s burning low
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow
Only know you love her when you let her go
Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low
Only hate the road when you’re missin’ home
Only know you love her when you let her go
And you let her go”
“It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t come back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head.” ~ Henry Rollins, The Portable Henry Rollins
“Sometimes love means letting go when you want to hold on tighter.” ~ Melissa Marr, Ink Exchange
“Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.” ~ Stephen King, Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption: A Story from Different Seasons
Leave yourself alone.
When you can let your teacher
be ordinary and have bad moods,
you can let yourself be ordinary
and have bad moods too.
This letting yourself be
Allows you to relax into
“So there was really nothing to it
I just went and cut right through it
I said I’m gonna let him fly”
“Let Him Fly” by Patty Griffin on Living With Ghosts
“Ghosts don’t haunt us. That’s not how it works. They’re present among us because we won’t let go of them.” ~ Sue Grafton, M Is for Malice
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~ Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person’s throat. Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established. Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation.” ~ Wm. Paul Young, The Shack: Where Tragedy Confronts Eternity
“We need, in love, to practice only this: letting each other go. For holding on comes easily; we do not need to learn it.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke, Translations from the Poetry of Rainer Maria Rilke
“There ain’t no way you can hold onto something that wants to go, you understand? You can only love what you got while you got it.” ~ Kate DiCamillo, Because of Winn-Dixie
“Learning to let go should be learned before learning to get. Life should be touched, not strangled. You’ve got to relax, let it happen at times, and at others move forward with it. It’s like boats. You keep your motor on so you can steer with the current. And when you hear the sound of the waterfall coming nearer and nearer, tidy up the boat, put on your best tie and hat, and smoke a cigar right up till the moment you go over. That’s a triumph.” ~ Ray Bradbury, Farewell Summer
“Take any emotion: love for a woman; or grief for a loved one; or what I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment’.” ~ Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie
“Your detachment is created on an emotional, intellectual level by nothing more complex than your decision that life is not as dramatic as your ego imagines it to be.
You are happy to allow everyone their evolution through the physical plane, unfettered by your personal opinion and interference. Doing so, you observe them to be perfect in their imperfection, and you further observe them to be experiencing whatever they are experiencing, for some reason of which you have no certain knowledge. It doesn’t mean you have to be callous or uninterested in people’s problems. You can help them indirectly through your energy and your knowledge, but don’t interfere in the lives of others, especially if they haven’t approached you personally. Take the humble stance which says that you have no deeper knowledge of people’s personal circumstances than they do. If they don’t ask your opinion, why would you offer it?
The greatest love you can offer others, in my view, is to leave them alone. This affirms that they are capable, and given time, will probably solve their situation better than you ever can.” ~ Stuart Wilde
To Have Without Holding
by Marge Piercy
Learning to love differently is hard,
love with the hands wide open, love
with the doors banging on their hinges,
the cupboard unlocked, the wind
roaring and whimpering in the rooms
rustling the sheets and snapping the blinds
that thwack like rubber bands
in an open palm.
It hurts to love wide open
stretching the muscles that feel
as if they are made of wet plaster,
then of blunt knives, then
of sharp knives.
It hurts to thwart the reflexes
of grab, of clutch; to love and let
go again and again. It pesters to remember
the lover who is not in the bed,
to hold back what is owed to the work
that gutters like a candle in a cave
without air, to love consciously,
conscientiously, concretely, constructively.
I can’t do it, you say it’s killing
me, but you thrive, you glow
on the street like a neon raspberry,
You float and sail, a helium balloon
bright bachelor’s button blue and bobbing
on the cold and hot winds of our breath,
as we make and unmake in passionate
diastole and systole the rhythm
of our unbound bonding, to have
and not to hold, to love
with minimized malice, hunger
and anger moment by moment balanced.
“To Have Without Holding” by Marge Piercy, from The Moon Is Always Female. © Knopf, 1980.
Let It Go
by e. e. cummings
let it go—the
smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise—let it go it
was sworn to
let them go—the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers—you must let them go they
let all go—the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things—let all go
so comes love
“let it go” by e. e. cummings, from Complete Poems 1904-1962, edited by George James Firmage. © Liveright Publishing Corporation, 1994.
But sometimes you should ignore all of the above. When? Well, you’ll have to ask Terry. Or Jennie (don’t forget to say hi!) Have a great week everyone. Please come back to support Jennie on her own debut edition next weekend. See you then, Christy
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