Tainted Love – Vol. 17

Roses are red, Violets are blue, oooh Valentine’s Day chocolate sale . . . Gotta run! Enjoy our tainted take on love, and have a great week everyone. Love, Jennie and Christy

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Tainted Love” by Soft Cell, from The Singles

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“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” ~Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 9: The Kindly Ones

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“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” ~Jim Morrison

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“I think you are wrong to want a heart. It makes most people unhappy. If you only knew it, you are in luck not to have a heart.” ~L. Frank Baum, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz

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“Be careful of love. It’ll twist your brain around and leave you thinking up is down and right is wrong.”  ~Rick Riordan, The Battle of the Labyrinth

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“You know how they say you only hurt the ones you love? Well, it works both ways.” ~Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

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“If loving someone is putting them in a straitjacket and kicking them down a flight of stairs, then yes, I have loved a few people.” ~Jarod Kintz, It Occurred to Me

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“The only thing worse than a boy who hates you: a boy that loves you.” ~Markus Zusak, The Book Thief

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“Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.” ~Joan Crawford

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“To douchebags!” he said, gesturing to Brad. “And to girls that break your heart,” he bowed his head to me. His eyes lost focus. “And to the absolute fucking horror of losing your best friend because you were stupid enough to fall in love with her.” ~Jamie McGuire, Beautiful Disaster

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“Everyone, at some point in their lives, wakes up in the middle of the night with the feeling that they are all alone in the world, and that nobody loves them now and that nobody will ever love them, and that they will never have a decent night’s sleep again and will spend their lives wandering blearily around a loveless landscape, hoping desperately that their circumstances will improve, but suspecting, in their heart of hearts, that they will remain unloved forever. The best thing to do in these circumstances is to wake somebody else up, so that they can feel this way, too.” ~Lemony Snicket, Horseradish: Bitter Truths You Can’t Avoid

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“It isn’t possible to love and part. You will wish that it was. You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.” ~E.M. Forster, A Room with a View

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“There’s always a moment when you start to fall out of love, whether it’s with a person or an idea or a cause, even if it’s one you only narrate to yourself years after the event: a tiny thing, a wrong word, a false note, which means that things can never be quite the same again.” ~Douglas Adams, The Salmon of Doubt

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Pale sunlight,
pale the wall.
Love moves away.
The light changes.
I need more grace
than I thought.
~Rumi, from “Dissolver of Sugar,” The Essential Rumi

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from time to time
you returned to me
– an asylum,
zip codes and stripped
bricks turning
hearthstone to crypt
no, i won’t empty
myself just
to make you a home
find another sanctuary
for your unfilled ghosts
my body wasn’t built
to be anyone’s haunted house
~Scherezade Siobhan© (via viperslang)

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I want to
let her know
though
that all the nights
sleeping
beside her
even the useless
arguments
were things
ever splendid
and the hard
words
I ever feared to
say
can now be
said:
I love
you.

~Charles Bukowski, from “Confession

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Then I said
goodnight and
tucked you away
inside a place
called Nostalgia,
where you’ll
always remain
unsoiled,
somewhere between
my lungs that used
to breathe the ocean
air, and my belly
that fluttered with
hope.
~Victoria Erickson, from “A place called Nostalgia

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Somebody That I Used to Know” by Pentatonix (Gotye cover)

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“And then I felt sad because I realized that once people are broken in certain ways, they can’t ever be fixed, and this is something nobody ever tells you when you are young and it never fails to surprise you as you grow older as you see the people in your life break one by one. You wonder when your turn is going to be, or if it’s already happened.” ~Douglas Coupland, Life After God

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“Peel my fear off. Take a brief glimpse on the inside. Get scared. Lie. Run. Off you go.”
~Gertrude Stein, Collected Works

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“Had I known that the heart breaks slowly, dismantling itself into unrecognizable plots of misery… had I known yet I would have loved you, your brash and insolent beauty, your heavy comedic face and knowledge of sweet delights, but from a distance I would have left you whole and wholly for the delectation of those who wanted more and cared less.”
~Maya Angelou, And Still I Rise

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“Just for the record, she still loves you. She wouldn’t bother to torture you if she didn’t.” ~Chuck Palahniuk, Diary

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“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.” ~Louis de Bernières, Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

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“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.” ~Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

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This week’s Tainted Love themed music playlist via YouTube, features music by: The Everly Brothers, Blake Shelton, CeeLo Green, Jonny Lang and more. (Strong language in a few songs.)

Playlist link:

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27 comments

  1. whiteladyinthehood · ·

    Hope you had a nice Valentines Day! Loved the Joan Crawford quote and the incredible art!

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    1. We had a snow day for Valentine’s Day here, so it turned into a snuggle in front of TV type of day 🙂 I’ve been on a kick with Kush’s art, it’s got a Wonderland feel to it that appeals to me, I’m glad you like it! Hope you had a nice Valentine’s Day too! ~ Jennie

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  2. *waves to Jennie and Christy*

    I like all the quotes, but the Louis de Bernières quote really stood out. It pretty much coincides with the neurological research on dopamine and the pleasure centers of the brain.

    “Have you ever fallen in love? Remember the intense cravings to be near your beloved? The pounding heart? The dizzy euphoria? These symptoms are the same as those reported by people who use drugs. And there’s a good reason; in both cases, most of the same neurochemicals are pounding in the primitive part of your brain.

    In the case of drug users, these symptoms occur because they’ve taken a substance that hijacks a place the size of a pea, deep in the brain, called the reward center. Why does this highly-sensitive little spot exist? To give you a big buzz (and make you reckless) when you pursue activities that help to pass on your genes.”

    “Tainted Love” = equals = I NEED A FIX — MORE DOPAMINE. 😀

    http://bit.ly/MmNQP9

    Love to you both. Happy Valentine’s Day (belated).
    ~V

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    1. Hi Victoria!

      That article was really interesting, thanks for sharing it!

      Someone should do a study to see if relationships where either one of the partners consumes high quantities of chocolate have the same severity of highs and lows or if the dopamine shot you get from chocolate keeps it level! (You know I’m looking for another excuse to eat chocolate now!)

      Happy Valentine’s Day and love back to you!! ~Jennie

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  3. “Tainted Love” are you kidding me? Who has even thought of those words for 30 years. Where do you come up with this?

    I love the dichotomy in this week’s post. But in the real world … Love Trumps All.

    I’ll be doing well today if I can keep that at the forefront of my little brain.

    Thanks girls, heart-pounding as always, Lisa

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    1. Haha! I don’t know where we came up with it, with this one probably the part of our brains that never left the 80s 😉

      Lisa, I’m thinking your brain is not at all little and I have to say I do agree with you; Love always wins! ~Jennie

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  4. You are a wonderful curator of words… Happy weekend! xx

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    1. Christy and I both thank you for the compliment and thank you for coming by! Have a great rest of your weekend! ~Jennie

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  5. Ha. Fun twist on love. Love does open you up to be vulnerable and hurt, but it is so much more empowering that any hurt that comes because of it that it is worth the risk. The transformation of your soul that takes place because of love is greater than any other that could take place (at least that’s what I think). Happy Valentine’s weekend.

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    1. Hi Char, I love what you think! Love is worth the risk of the hurt, and I truly believe love can cause many (positive) transformations; inside us as well as outside of us. And now I have “All You Need is Love” playing in my head! Hope you’re having a great Valentine’s weekend! ~Jennie

      (and even if it’s counter to this weekend’s theme …)

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      1. Perfect song for me. I love the Beatles.

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  6. The Stein quote is very strong and worth the price of admission. Thank you. Belated Happy Valentine’s Day to you both.
    J. Mitchell with a couple of her takes on love.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TovZvWiE2g
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUvhMukbsgw

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    1. Happy belated Valentine’s Day to you too Whistler! I always enjoy the music you share with us and this week is no exception, Joni Mitchell is great! Have a great weekend! ~Jennie

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  7. As soon as I saw the title of today’s post, that song popped into my head. It’s been firmly lodged there all day. Um. . . thanks?

    Great collection of quotes. (Did you know that The Book Thief is my favorite book?!! )

    Love the Gotye cover! I hadn’t heard that one. Those people are fantastic. I also really like this one:

    Have some chocolate for me. I can’t have any. 😦

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    1. That cover is pretty great too! Oh! And you’re welcome for the earworm, we aim to please 😉 I didn’t know The Book Thief was your favorite, that makes using that quote even better!

      I’m sorry you can’t have chocolate 😦 My sister couldn’t either, she’s allergic (to that and to nuts, made for an interesting childhood for her 😉 ) If it’ll help I’ll certainly eat a share for you, just as I used to do for my sister! Hope you’re having a good weekend, Mary! ~Jennie

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  8. Love your blog. I’ve always liked the song Tainted Love, now it will be going through my head for the next day.

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    1. Hi Carly! Tainted Love seems to stick with you a bit, I’ve had it in going through my head since we started putting this one together last week! 😉 Hope you’re having a good start to your week! ~Jennie

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  9. Wild to see the Soft Cell VT. I’ve always had a Soft Spot (ha ha) for their Tainted Love; when they were first making it big in the 80s there were a lot of groups from northern cities in England emerging onto the music scene. Some people argued that this was because of the decline of heavy industries (coal, steel, shipbuilding etc) – kids were leaving school into unemployment, so they made music instead. I watched the VT remembering the talk of a ‘crisis of masculinity’ back then 🙂 Musically, it was a good period in England after the drear 70s!

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    1. The 80s was an excellent musical period for England; The Cure, Billy Idol, I can’t imagine the 80s without them! I think it was mostly European artists that topped the charts over here then (or at least they made up a big enough part of my listening to make me think they did! 😉 ). Hope you have a great week, Liz! ~Jennie

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  10. Every song takes you back to a place. “Tainted Love” was the song my girlfriend plucked from a table top jukebox one night at the Lindenwood Diner back in the early eighties. There we sat, two goofy high school kids who had it all figured out, or so we thought. We smoked Marlboro reds, argued about Ronald Reagan and talked about being married some day. Love possessed no complications, not on that night, despite the cautionary tale provided by Soft Cell. All that mattered was the person sitting across the table and the smile she saved just for me.
    Love the love, ladies.

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    1. I’d forgotten (or just hadn’t thought about lately) sitting in the diner as a teenager (it’s name had been The Thunderbird, they changed it at some point in my teens and I can’t recall what they changed it to)! I loved those tabletop jukeboxes, I was sad when the diner got rid of them, it still had some old songs on it, and had the original version of Tainted Love by Gloria Jones. I used to play that one all the time. Thanks for reminding me of the memory Cayman, and for sharing your own! ~Jennie

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      1. Thanks for providing the ride that brought me back in time. Yep, those tabletop jukeboxes . . man, I don’t care how scary genius our music procurement becomes. Those days possessed something that technology will never be able to replicate.

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  11. I’m late here, but this must have been my favourite edition so far. Each of those quotes… Especially the one by Jim Morrisson…. Loved all these words.

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    1. Nah, never late, Nadia. It’s a 24/7 place over here, so just read when you can or when you need. 🙂

      After Valentine’s Day, this was kind of our anti-love volume. I love love as much as anyone, I just don’t like the commercialism that goes with a one day out of a year to love someone. So we had fun putting this together! Glad you enjoyed. xx, c

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  12. muggleinconverse · ·

    And…now I cry. That’s love for you. 🙂

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    1. Awwwww. Big love to you. xo

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